lahiri da
He was my senior and research consultant in ORGroup when I joined ORG in early 1974. Genuinely loving and simple person. He was newly married and did not meet his wife. I used to frequently go to Calcutta and it was 2 days travel by train. I could hardly be there for 10 days. But i had to go every 6 months to be with my mother and spend time at ISI. I was too attached to ISI then. Lahiri da wished me to carry a gift for some new relation of his. Lahiri da and Papiya Boudi came to Station with the gift to be carried with me. She brought me some food. She was very attractive lady. The food was wrapped in some transparent paper. I did not notice till i dig my teeth on it. The house where i was to deliver the gift did not have approach road because of rain and mud. shortly after lahirida left ORG and joined ministry of science DSIR. I went to Delhi for some reason I met Lahiri da in his office. He retired occupying the same chair and office. He was heading the office. He was Phd in Geology. At ORG he was doing works on planning. He was part of Narmada Sagar Dam Canal project from World Bank. In fact I came to know him when DVN picked me up and introduced to him. DVN was founder of ORG and from my school. I was Statistician Programmer. I belonged to another department and i was busy. it made difficulties for me being associated with planning and research.
I came to live in Delhi after 5 years in 1983 as a newly married person. though we lived nearby but never met. raghu was frequenting between us. raghu was on his own. he used to do some projects through another institution. projects usually originated at MST.
In 1985 I left Computronics because of a personal problem that truly originated at Joya's Parent home. It resulted in her father's early death too. she took to defend her family and did not even mind ruining my health peace or wealth. But my neighbors even though i never spoke about it came to know. to this day she is bent on doing the same harm to me and our family. our daughter is not married. nor really stable. my son though very competent and educated is not working. she is responsible in particular for the instability in her married life. her language is horrible. her family is far worse. My family learned to avoid her and their abuses. her family of course like to exploit and be a pest doing every harm possible. now they are old and having ill health yet they have not stopped scheming. they wish to migrate to USA or at least they wish their children to migrate. this cannot happen in my house. She does business in my house. childcare. it is extremely dangerous business. she is unbalanced with greed for money. she already caused many accidents. she pays no bills taxes and expenses occupies half the house. she herself having deteriorating health. further she and her family wish to take possession of my house by cooking up false allegations and consulting everyone they know to carry out divorce and they are at it for last two years. i came to know from their contacts only. they warned me now of course they loudly abuse and threaten. now that i am retired. I am physically unfit and in diet with type 2 diabetes. I cannot really tolerate abuse. I stay in my room with shut door. more than 5 years now i am not even talking to her but that does not stop her or her family from abusing me.
In delhi I was not able to get job for some time after i resigned. but i was married and with a child and wife. but i had further expense from her family making frequent visit. they were trying to invade us and frequently. Her eldest brother was the cause of all trouble. he put his daughter in some school in dehradun. after delhi i took a job in Calcutta. This time he came to live with me in my house for many months. He had three daughters. he brought them to Calcutta and put them in school. He could not live in Agartala. He had very bad reputation. I resigned because of him only; but he never resigned although doing all kinds of businesses. He had a very bad reputation in Agartala working in a government hospital. Even now he wishes to migrate in US. he is about 76 now. he has 3 daughters and none wants to be associated with him. two of them are here in US. He is the chief planner to win this house of mine somehow for their ambition. My daughter is trapped by them with promise of her marriage with some Indian. this brother in law is the architect of this plan. I just avoid to hear such scheme that involves sham marriage for US residency. after 7 years she has gone to India for two weeks. God willing this may happen. However my daughter will not invade my privacy. But the in laws can go to any extent. They value money and asset; and would commit all sins and consider must be undertaken. They think any sin committed can be undone by puja donation mantra baba devotion and pilgrimage. This eldest brother in law is habitual drinker and sleeping tablet addict. several times he attempted to prove his own wife insane even during my presence once. to teach her a lesson he even complained to police and kept her in hospital under police observation. No one really believed. Ultimately the entire family had to be shifted to Calcutta one after another shortly after my father in laws death. Joya was their mast of support. God willing they shall succeed. unfortunately wealth despite all belief otherwise, cannot buy health or peace. wealth is the one only reason for insanity. every member of her family is unbalanced and insane. i have not exchanged even one sentence with them in last 8 years.
I needed my family to be associated with good and unselfish person. I personally asked Lahirida to help me. he was very kind hearted. Papiya boudi soon understood the basic problem that i already knew. she was suffering from inferiority complex because of her family. this complex makes her self destructive unable to be correct mother to her own two children. she always makes wrong accusation and false stories. her children though do not believe her but sympathizes with her pain and suffering. her sufferings are true. Lahiri da and his family and us became close. I had a prospect of getting a project from my ex employer. but it came 10 months late. it became infeasible for me to do the project with the money offered. it was INR120,000. I needed at least 150K. Lahiri da gave me a project through one Dr Khosla. The project was for 50K and Dr Khosla took 10K for his help. Lahiri da was helping Raghu too by channeling projects through Dr. Khosla. Shortly afterwards I left for Calcutta for about two years.
In early 1989 I was going to US for first time. I was having $600 and promise to be paid and reimbursed for all my food lodging and travel expenses. the trip was for 30 days. I was not at all comfortable. My plane for NY was from Delhi. I dropped in to meet Lahiri da. plane was at late night. lahiri da's mother was at home only. the family had a dinner invitation and reached home late. i related my worries to lahiri da. instantly without a word and or my asking he gave me $500 as contingency. i was relieved. i had lot of accidents while i was in US but this $500 saved me from my financial worries where i had no friends. I am very shy of asking.
In 1989 summer I shifted to NOIDA. This time Lahiri da was far away living in MST Office quarters. Yet we met several times. I had a car, not in good condition. He too bought a car. Raghu never really came but he used to meet him. Lahiri da went to Raghu's marriage and we heard stories about the bride. She was beautiful and wealthy. Papia Boudi effusive in her appreciation. I had another episode of misfortune. In an assignment from ORG I went to Bangkok. It was multi year assignment and I had to send my family of three to Kolkata. I sold my car. i was very skeptic of Indian business practices. I got twin blow. I had already pending payment of my salary of INR 100K. I came to india for visa transfer from tourist to work visa. ORG got work visa for one of their employee; and on the day i was to catch plane they canceled my contract. My world shook. Fortunately the children were still in school. summer holidays. But i had sold off everything. I was sleeping in floor. next two years were trying time for me. i made many software but none really sold. my total income in two years was about 125K. I went to Lahiri da for some help. Lahiri da just like that told me, he could buy one of my security software. his dsir had a library software that he was distributing to government libraries. he thought that he could implement digital security for software distribution. Again they could not buy straight from me. it has to be channelised through a government department called ETTDC. I had a friend there. His organization took 10k and i got 40K.
I love most about him is his genuine care for me without any display of show. in 2003 again I needed his service. I was novice about immigration. I paid $10K to a pakistani for 4 of us. He was great squeezer. I am not habituated to bargaining, when it was in the last leg of processing, he asked for a amount I could not afford. Nor did I know that I have to be employed for being permanent resident. I paid another $1000 to a lawyer but he too did not tell me about this Immigration rule. In the interview I was told unless I am employed I or my family cannot get permanent residence. Any salary is OK. He gave me one month time. Prior to this it was required that I produce birth certificate marriage certificates etc. My in laws are totally dishonest lot. They were producing false paper documents. That would not pass even superficial scrutiny. for me honesty is best policy all my life. it is my mast of support as an individual i could not compromise my honesty or dare. Lahiri da was heading DSIR then. He sent me, in India Government letterhead, that my school leaving board certificate is regarded as birth certificate by central government. explaining birth certificate is only very recently came into use. All my marriage evidences, invitation letters, witness affidavits, marriage photographs were good enough to prove our civil marriage. when I was leaving for US I needed an Income tax certificate that i had no dues but in case it was determined that i owe any money to GOI, some body was required to be a guarantor. I went to Lahirida attending a conference. He just obliged.
A couple of years back I got several emails from him that he had travelled several continents with Papiya Boudi on pleasure trips then retired. His two children too were married. Daughter did MPA from Harvard. She was married to an Indian in Singapore. Son was too married and settled in mumbai. they were together engaged in some software training business.
I came to live in Delhi after 5 years in 1983 as a newly married person. though we lived nearby but never met. raghu was frequenting between us. raghu was on his own. he used to do some projects through another institution. projects usually originated at MST.
In 1985 I left Computronics because of a personal problem that truly originated at Joya's Parent home. It resulted in her father's early death too. she took to defend her family and did not even mind ruining my health peace or wealth. But my neighbors even though i never spoke about it came to know. to this day she is bent on doing the same harm to me and our family. our daughter is not married. nor really stable. my son though very competent and educated is not working. she is responsible in particular for the instability in her married life. her language is horrible. her family is far worse. My family learned to avoid her and their abuses. her family of course like to exploit and be a pest doing every harm possible. now they are old and having ill health yet they have not stopped scheming. they wish to migrate to USA or at least they wish their children to migrate. this cannot happen in my house. She does business in my house. childcare. it is extremely dangerous business. she is unbalanced with greed for money. she already caused many accidents. she pays no bills taxes and expenses occupies half the house. she herself having deteriorating health. further she and her family wish to take possession of my house by cooking up false allegations and consulting everyone they know to carry out divorce and they are at it for last two years. i came to know from their contacts only. they warned me now of course they loudly abuse and threaten. now that i am retired. I am physically unfit and in diet with type 2 diabetes. I cannot really tolerate abuse. I stay in my room with shut door. more than 5 years now i am not even talking to her but that does not stop her or her family from abusing me.
In delhi I was not able to get job for some time after i resigned. but i was married and with a child and wife. but i had further expense from her family making frequent visit. they were trying to invade us and frequently. Her eldest brother was the cause of all trouble. he put his daughter in some school in dehradun. after delhi i took a job in Calcutta. This time he came to live with me in my house for many months. He had three daughters. he brought them to Calcutta and put them in school. He could not live in Agartala. He had very bad reputation. I resigned because of him only; but he never resigned although doing all kinds of businesses. He had a very bad reputation in Agartala working in a government hospital. Even now he wishes to migrate in US. he is about 76 now. he has 3 daughters and none wants to be associated with him. two of them are here in US. He is the chief planner to win this house of mine somehow for their ambition. My daughter is trapped by them with promise of her marriage with some Indian. this brother in law is the architect of this plan. I just avoid to hear such scheme that involves sham marriage for US residency. after 7 years she has gone to India for two weeks. God willing this may happen. However my daughter will not invade my privacy. But the in laws can go to any extent. They value money and asset; and would commit all sins and consider must be undertaken. They think any sin committed can be undone by puja donation mantra baba devotion and pilgrimage. This eldest brother in law is habitual drinker and sleeping tablet addict. several times he attempted to prove his own wife insane even during my presence once. to teach her a lesson he even complained to police and kept her in hospital under police observation. No one really believed. Ultimately the entire family had to be shifted to Calcutta one after another shortly after my father in laws death. Joya was their mast of support. God willing they shall succeed. unfortunately wealth despite all belief otherwise, cannot buy health or peace. wealth is the one only reason for insanity. every member of her family is unbalanced and insane. i have not exchanged even one sentence with them in last 8 years.
I needed my family to be associated with good and unselfish person. I personally asked Lahirida to help me. he was very kind hearted. Papiya boudi soon understood the basic problem that i already knew. she was suffering from inferiority complex because of her family. this complex makes her self destructive unable to be correct mother to her own two children. she always makes wrong accusation and false stories. her children though do not believe her but sympathizes with her pain and suffering. her sufferings are true. Lahiri da and his family and us became close. I had a prospect of getting a project from my ex employer. but it came 10 months late. it became infeasible for me to do the project with the money offered. it was INR120,000. I needed at least 150K. Lahiri da gave me a project through one Dr Khosla. The project was for 50K and Dr Khosla took 10K for his help. Lahiri da was helping Raghu too by channeling projects through Dr. Khosla. Shortly afterwards I left for Calcutta for about two years.
In early 1989 I was going to US for first time. I was having $600 and promise to be paid and reimbursed for all my food lodging and travel expenses. the trip was for 30 days. I was not at all comfortable. My plane for NY was from Delhi. I dropped in to meet Lahiri da. plane was at late night. lahiri da's mother was at home only. the family had a dinner invitation and reached home late. i related my worries to lahiri da. instantly without a word and or my asking he gave me $500 as contingency. i was relieved. i had lot of accidents while i was in US but this $500 saved me from my financial worries where i had no friends. I am very shy of asking.
In 1989 summer I shifted to NOIDA. This time Lahiri da was far away living in MST Office quarters. Yet we met several times. I had a car, not in good condition. He too bought a car. Raghu never really came but he used to meet him. Lahiri da went to Raghu's marriage and we heard stories about the bride. She was beautiful and wealthy. Papia Boudi effusive in her appreciation. I had another episode of misfortune. In an assignment from ORG I went to Bangkok. It was multi year assignment and I had to send my family of three to Kolkata. I sold my car. i was very skeptic of Indian business practices. I got twin blow. I had already pending payment of my salary of INR 100K. I came to india for visa transfer from tourist to work visa. ORG got work visa for one of their employee; and on the day i was to catch plane they canceled my contract. My world shook. Fortunately the children were still in school. summer holidays. But i had sold off everything. I was sleeping in floor. next two years were trying time for me. i made many software but none really sold. my total income in two years was about 125K. I went to Lahiri da for some help. Lahiri da just like that told me, he could buy one of my security software. his dsir had a library software that he was distributing to government libraries. he thought that he could implement digital security for software distribution. Again they could not buy straight from me. it has to be channelised through a government department called ETTDC. I had a friend there. His organization took 10k and i got 40K.
I love most about him is his genuine care for me without any display of show. in 2003 again I needed his service. I was novice about immigration. I paid $10K to a pakistani for 4 of us. He was great squeezer. I am not habituated to bargaining, when it was in the last leg of processing, he asked for a amount I could not afford. Nor did I know that I have to be employed for being permanent resident. I paid another $1000 to a lawyer but he too did not tell me about this Immigration rule. In the interview I was told unless I am employed I or my family cannot get permanent residence. Any salary is OK. He gave me one month time. Prior to this it was required that I produce birth certificate marriage certificates etc. My in laws are totally dishonest lot. They were producing false paper documents. That would not pass even superficial scrutiny. for me honesty is best policy all my life. it is my mast of support as an individual i could not compromise my honesty or dare. Lahiri da was heading DSIR then. He sent me, in India Government letterhead, that my school leaving board certificate is regarded as birth certificate by central government. explaining birth certificate is only very recently came into use. All my marriage evidences, invitation letters, witness affidavits, marriage photographs were good enough to prove our civil marriage. when I was leaving for US I needed an Income tax certificate that i had no dues but in case it was determined that i owe any money to GOI, some body was required to be a guarantor. I went to Lahirida attending a conference. He just obliged.
A couple of years back I got several emails from him that he had travelled several continents with Papiya Boudi on pleasure trips then retired. His two children too were married. Daughter did MPA from Harvard. She was married to an Indian in Singapore. Son was too married and settled in mumbai. they were together engaged in some software training business.
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