intolerance
who is responsible for intolerance?
one answer and perhaps correct is me.
about 20 years back i came from india with my family of four with two children growing up and my spouse who did not know much english. my younger one he could hardly speak english but had lot of love for people. i took accommodation that i could afford and by chance it was an area that was white dominated, blacks none; but some asian of various kind - indian iranian chinese sri lankan etc. i was asked by school counselor to better integrate my son with the american community try boy scout. he was easily accepted in one. my daughter was apt with language and had training in vocal music was easily accepted in high school choir. i also started participating in boy scout. i came to realise that i as indian parent was not very welcome in the boy scout of all whites. my son went on to participate in boy scout while in middle school but dropped out eventually. the high school was tougher for my son. it was some what racial on color and he was darkish in complexion. the school did not have any black boy or girl. it was republican dominated city. some asian that belonged to the school could only be appreciated if they are studious and doing well in studies. my son who was very affectionate and friendly kind, could not belong to white group because of his english disability. circumstance forced us to move out of that area and he went to a school that was black dominated. here he was completely ignored further harassed. he was thought to be a snob. somehow he graduated from school despite lot of hiccups. he preferred his acquaintances from the white dominated area and asian friends. his underdeveloped mind preferred his asian friends and their careless easy life. it was in conflict with my values. he wasted about four years of college and came to realize that money cannot buy him college education. he did not wish to be manual labor all his life. next six years he educated himself hard and learned many very difficult subjects with proficiency. computer engineering data science financial science and accounting. earning multiple bs degrees with merit recognition. as yet he does not have the capacity to be aggressive to earn his living in his profession but it is different matter. it is not my look out any more or guide him.
it is all about my tolerance. i am never tolerant in my school college or in profession. i am uncompromising till this day when i am retired. no matter where i am. i am not compromising. however i know how to extract myself without a word however hurting the separation may cause me. i accept difference without causing me any heartburn or regret.
i cannot compromise and there cannot be any reason for compromise ~ not my health wealth color race ... and education. if i am not enough no question asked for my inclusion or membership. i cannot support nor i expect support.
why all these elaborate words about my attitude. i am 15000 miles away from my country of birth and it is my decision that i shall never visit it again even for a day. i usually do not even keep track of what is happening there except via social media. i have some preferred couple of personal connections and absolutely none social connections. i cannot really tolerate the level of dishonesty by people of my country origin. in fact i stay away from listening distance from my own nuclear family members. i cannot compromise.
yet i am very agitated by political atmosphere about the country i have abandoned forever. equally i am very agitated about political and economic atmosphere of the country i have embraced for rest of my life. both have become very personal to me and making me very uncomfortable.
i am trying to lower my sense of humor so that i do not get agitated and start having health issue.
one answer and perhaps correct is me.
about 20 years back i came from india with my family of four with two children growing up and my spouse who did not know much english. my younger one he could hardly speak english but had lot of love for people. i took accommodation that i could afford and by chance it was an area that was white dominated, blacks none; but some asian of various kind - indian iranian chinese sri lankan etc. i was asked by school counselor to better integrate my son with the american community try boy scout. he was easily accepted in one. my daughter was apt with language and had training in vocal music was easily accepted in high school choir. i also started participating in boy scout. i came to realise that i as indian parent was not very welcome in the boy scout of all whites. my son went on to participate in boy scout while in middle school but dropped out eventually. the high school was tougher for my son. it was some what racial on color and he was darkish in complexion. the school did not have any black boy or girl. it was republican dominated city. some asian that belonged to the school could only be appreciated if they are studious and doing well in studies. my son who was very affectionate and friendly kind, could not belong to white group because of his english disability. circumstance forced us to move out of that area and he went to a school that was black dominated. here he was completely ignored further harassed. he was thought to be a snob. somehow he graduated from school despite lot of hiccups. he preferred his acquaintances from the white dominated area and asian friends. his underdeveloped mind preferred his asian friends and their careless easy life. it was in conflict with my values. he wasted about four years of college and came to realize that money cannot buy him college education. he did not wish to be manual labor all his life. next six years he educated himself hard and learned many very difficult subjects with proficiency. computer engineering data science financial science and accounting. earning multiple bs degrees with merit recognition. as yet he does not have the capacity to be aggressive to earn his living in his profession but it is different matter. it is not my look out any more or guide him.
it is all about my tolerance. i am never tolerant in my school college or in profession. i am uncompromising till this day when i am retired. no matter where i am. i am not compromising. however i know how to extract myself without a word however hurting the separation may cause me. i accept difference without causing me any heartburn or regret.
i cannot compromise and there cannot be any reason for compromise ~ not my health wealth color race ... and education. if i am not enough no question asked for my inclusion or membership. i cannot support nor i expect support.
why all these elaborate words about my attitude. i am 15000 miles away from my country of birth and it is my decision that i shall never visit it again even for a day. i usually do not even keep track of what is happening there except via social media. i have some preferred couple of personal connections and absolutely none social connections. i cannot really tolerate the level of dishonesty by people of my country origin. in fact i stay away from listening distance from my own nuclear family members. i cannot compromise.
yet i am very agitated by political atmosphere about the country i have abandoned forever. equally i am very agitated about political and economic atmosphere of the country i have embraced for rest of my life. both have become very personal to me and making me very uncomfortable.
i am trying to lower my sense of humor so that i do not get agitated and start having health issue.
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